I have a few rude guests (previous post) and wondered about having an alternative to T-giving at our house. We only have a few elderly folks who aren't expected to host, and BIL/SIL, who have never offered to host (but imagine Thanksgiving at a cold, filthy house that reeks of cat urine). Have people found alternatives, such as going to a restaurant or having it catered, that work well? If you cater a meal like that for family, does everyone contribute to the cost? I'd have to weigh pros and cons (leaving my house, whether catering would really be that much less work, and I dont' want to risk people not coming, nor do I necessarily want to give it up forever). Anyway, I'm interested in people's experiences.