We don't have children and we aren't planning to have any but if we did...I think I'd have to agree with all of the points presented in the NYT article suggesting children eat the same food with the rest of the family rather than a separate meal which tends to be prepared, processed and not flavourful. In a sense, I try to apply a lot of the ideas in the article to my own life ~ buying the best I can afford ~ chocolate.
From reading previous posts about this subject I gather most are of a similar opinion. Now my Mom did use a highchair but I do remember that once we were old enough to sit at the big table we had to behave. If we were taken to a restaurant we ordered from the menu and of course we were on our best behaviour which meant not getting out of our seat.
As I said before, I don't have children so I'm not sure if this list is practical but thought Chowhounds would like to read the article.