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Entertaining & Etiquette

Food "etiquette" after a death

danhole | Nov 4, 200801:39 AM     55

What is the standard, wherever you are, after a death in the family? Does someone bring food to your home, for the family, or is food provided after the service (as in funeral/memorial/burial)? I am on a rant right now because my mother in law passed away and we are having a memorial service at her church on Fri. We have been informed that nothing will be provided, by the church's ladies, because they are having their Turkey Supper that evening. She has been a member of that church since she was born, 86 years ago. I feel like they should at least do something. So far no offers of bringing food over have been given, and now it is up to the family to provide food for the people who attend the gathering, as if we don't have enough to take care of as it is. But maybe I am just being too sensitive. At our church (obviously not the same one) there is a potluck for the family with the ladies bringing comfort foods for the family, and enough for them to take home for the days ahead. But this place put out pimento cheese sandwiches and a couple of bags of chips for my father in law just 3 years back. Have things really changed that much? What are others experiences?

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