I'm trying to plan a small wedding (up to 50 people but more likely 25-40...I know this is a large range so the location might somewhat dictate the size) in the Philadelphia area in September/October. I realize this is just around the corner, though this will not be a traditional wedding so it might be easier to think of it as a dinner party or event than a wedding. Anyway, I'm trying to find either a restaurant with a private space that ideally has some character (and ideally feels very separate from the rest of the restaurant) or a small restaurant, likely BYOB, that would allow us to have the entire restaurant. I'm guessing the only way we could take a full restaurant would be if we had the event on a Sunday at a restaurant not typically open on Sundays, so while a Friday night or Saturday would be our preference, Sundays are also open to consideration. I've googled around and am not finding many restaurants with private spaces that sound good. And, I'm a bit stumped regarding which BYOBs might be willing to let us have the whole place and are capable of catering to this type of event without getting totally overwhelmed. I've emailed back and forth with Osteria but am just not sure that what you get would be worth the price (though the food/drink minimum is significantly less expensive on a Sunday than a Saturday), nor that it is the type of food I'd want for this. Any thoughts on other options? While I want to emphasize that this won't "look" like a traditional wedding, I'm posting here because quality of food is super important if we are forgoing other aspects of a traditional wedding like music/dancing, flowers, etc. My preference would be to keep this under $5000 (price per head would vary depending on the size of the guest list) and ideally would love to be closer to $3000-$4000 before tax/tip. I think this is more likely with a BYOB. For a frame of reference, Osteria was quoting prices at $75, $90, or $100 per person, pre-alcohol, depending on whether you got the 3, 4, or 5 course family style meal. Thanks in advance for any suggestions!
p.s. When I say Philadelphia area I'm pretty open to spots within 30-60 minutes of the city. Local guests will be coming from the Main Line and South Jersey, but I'm not opposed to having them drive a little bit of a distance if we can find a spot we really like.