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What to do with guests who only want to host?


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What to do with guests who only want to host?

foodieseattlelady | Feb 19, 2011 06:09 PM

Within the past year and a half, I've run across a new problem that has perplexed me. One of my husband's best friends and his wife built a new home a year ago. Since then, they have begun to go out less and insist that people come over to their house. This has become such an issue that they hosted one dinner party where the host called his friends who had not RSVP'd or said that they were unable to come and implied that they were not good friends if they failed to come. Their house is almost an hour from our house and we have a two year-old. These friends do not have children. Thus, aside from an open house they host once a year, where we can easily leave if our little bundle of joy becomes overtired or just overly tiresome, this places a burden on us. This burden would be less if my husband's friends were willing to come to our house for dinner once in a while. I am an avid home cook and love entertaining. However, this couple has refused every single invitation, from baby showers for shared friends to sports events to dinner parties, to our home within the past year and a half. I feel like the girl who keeps traipsing after a cute boy, and keeps being rejected. After so much of that, even the most ardent admirer gets the hint. I am tempted to simply stop inviting them, and simply encourage my husband to spend time with his friend on the occasional guys night out. Then again, that seems a little petty. I suppose I could just see each invitation as a gesture I do not expect to be returned, like saying please and thank you. What do you think I should do? I am unsure.

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