In celebration of my upcoming birthday my partner will be taking me out to the restaurant of my choice. I have never been to either of the above and have not found much recent on a chowhound search. Food is of paramount importance but I want an atmosphere that is not overly stuffy, ie it should be comfortable. (Is Bernadin very French formal with no sense of humor?) I would love to hear recent reports of dining in these two places and any advice on which one to choose. Also would welcome any other ideas...any type of food but a really special place. Not Daniel; not Grenouille. Opinions on Chanterelle? Per Se?