Here's my list so far. Been a while since I've been to some of them, so please advise on which have gone noticeably downhill in food, service, atmosphere, or if there are certain others I neglected to mention while quickly composing this list.
The first two are rather certain:
Ducasse and Per Se
Now for the rest:
7. Jo Jo
Need help with the last two... March? Le Cirque III? L'Impero? Town? davidburke & donatella?
Le Bernardin I love, but too stark for my idea of dim and cozy romance. Same with Veritas, Chanterelle and perhaps J-G.