thanks to those who recommended a restaurant to this NYC chowhound.
we ended up going to jaleo. unfortunately the people i was with weren't very hungry so we only ordered seven tapas for three people.
LONG wait (at least an hour to an hour and a half)
it was really delicious. i went to spain last year and spent a month trying tapas and some of his tapas were better than i've had in spain!
we ordered the patatas bravas, eggplant flan, monkfish, croquettas, white gaspacho, date croquettes with bacon, and ....one more i can't think of.
LOVED the eggplant flan, patatas bravas, and gazpacho!