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Friend always pays for me when I can afford it


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Friend always pays for me when I can afford it

Christine88 | Apr 1, 2010 03:25 PM

I just went out with a friend for her birthday. I had invited her to go for her birthday. But she insisted on paying for both our meals. It was her birthday! Thank goodness I had given her two gifts. I feel bad because I saved up for this particular event, then she goes and pays. I had filed for bankruptcy in 2008. Things are better. Still tight on money, but I do it the correct way now and "budget." She has given me a lot of advice on that subject. I do the envelope system now. I plan ahead. I told her no, I want to pay. She wouldn't let me. Even to pay for my own meal and she pay for her own meal.

Should I feel bad that she paid?

Do I let it go and hopefully in the future let her know, hey, next time it is my treat?

I had the same situation when a group of us 4 girls always go for our birthdays. We had coupons. One lady had her bill and b/day girl (she told us our portion later), The girl I was with on the other coupon, she said I'll pay for you. I said no you won't. She was insisting, I told her, hey you know what, I need to feel good about myself knowing that I have finally gotten control of my finances and I can do these events without breaking the bank. I am paying for my meal and the portion to cover for the b/day girl.

But I know I also need to stop talking about my budget. I don't say that it's bad, just that I am finally following it, etc... Maybe that is why they do that.

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