Thanking you all in advance for any advice and suggestions you are able to tender. This is long, so thanks for bearing with me.
My beloved aunt and I have decided, at the last minute, that we need a winter getaway. Warmth tempted us, but she chose culture instead, so we are New York bound!
My aunt (60-ish) and I (younger) will be arriving this Thursday for a five-night stay, departing next Tuesday. Our hotel is in the vicinity of 7th Ave and W 55th. Much of our time will be spent viewing art, mainly at the Met, but also MOMA and possibly some other museums. I have hopes of theatre but since I couldn't get tickets for Twelfth Night, we will probably take our chances at the booth, plus there is always Lincoln Center and basically too many good choices. We haven't decided on other activities yet.
I currently live in Columbus, Ohio, and my aunt in Cincinnati. I visit Manhattan about once a year but my aunt hasn't been at least five years, and this will be only her third trip there total. I made two trips last year but haven't been since April, 2013. We are both adventurous eaters. I'm looking for a mix of convenience and food I can't get at home. While I am willing to go anywhere for a meal, we will be spending a lot of time in Midtown and the Upper East Side and my aunt is not as comfortable with a long travel time combined with a long wait for dinner, so we need some options near our hotel, in the Theatre District/Hell's Kitchen, on the UES, and/or that are easy to get to. Public transit and/or taxis are fine. We are a bit limited with long walks outdoors, especially if it's cold and damp, due to health issues, but up to 15 minutes or so should be fine.
She has no budget limits, but alas, I do. An occasional splurge won't break the bank but mostly I'd prefer not to spend more than $75 per person for dinner, without alcohol and before tax and tip. In an ideal world, lunch would be $20 or less per person, without alcohol and before tax and tip, but I'm open to spending more. Neither of us is much of a breakfast person; she likes tea and maybe a pastry and I want eggs and toast or steel-cut oatmeal. I don't do sweet first thing in the morning, and dislike brunch menus that are all sweet.
Neither of us have huge appetites and sharing small plates is my favorite way to dine, so I can taste more without getting full. We have no food allergies or dietary restrictions. She loves chocolate. If I can't get a reservation, I'm happy to sit at the bar, unless I've got a curtain to make. My aunt does prefer a chair or a stool with a back on it (not comfortable for her to sit without support) and really loud locations are not pleasant either.
I hope that's enough information to get started and give you some ideas. On to specifics:
1) Meals near the Met. I have seen the threads that discuss this. My go-to for lunch is Le Pain Quotidien on Madison Ave and I think 84th, and also Cafe Sabarsky in the Neue Gallerie (I love their Linzertorte). I would also consider Luke's Lobster, Untitled at the Whitney, the UES Shake Shack, maybe Payard, and the UES Salumeria Rosi (I enjoyed dinner at the other location). I'd take any advice or suggestions, especially about someplace new in the past ten months I may have missed.
2) My aunt loves chocolate, in whatever form. In cold weather she sometimes craves hot chocolate. Possibilities include: Jacques Torres, La Maison du Chocolate, Payard, Wafels & Dinges, and Grom. Feedback?
3) My aunt loves Vietnamese food. I'm not finding lots of recommendations but did locate a place called Cha Pa. Thoughts?
4) Afternoon tea might be on the schedule. I'm looking at the Mandarin Oriental, the Plaza, the Lowell, Lady Mendl, the St. Regis, and the Ritz-Carlton. The Mandarin Oriental may be able to combine a view with good food, if the reviews I've read are accurate. Price is not an issue here, but the food must be tasty.
5) I'm intrigued by regional Thai and Larb Ubol and Pure Thai pop up often. Thoughts?
6) I can get plenty of Korean food at home, but Danji looks different, like Korean meets small plates. Feedback?
7) I don't love brunch but we will be in town over a Saturday and Sunday and I know it's popular. Any thoughts? A brunch that will change my mind? Just forget it and eat lunch?
8) I love pretzels and my favorite to date is one I got from the Sigmund's pretzel cart in front of the Met, before the renovations started. I know they have a bricks-and-mortar location but don't know if I will get there. It looks like a place called The Jeffrey serves Sigmund's pretzels; anyone been there? I have an inquiry in to Sigmund's to see if there are other options, but does anyone have a pretzel they love that I should try?
9) I love food markets (the Boqueria!) and farmers' markets of all descriptions. If I can manage to get to the Union Square Greenmarket on this trip, I will. I'd enjoy trying the Union Square Cafe; do they serve food in the bar between lunch and dinner? Or is there someplace else nearby that would be worth a meal or a snack? (I haven't researched this, so apologies for not asking this more intelligently.)
10) I hope this isn't too off-topic but my aunt would enjoy someplace with a view of the city, but she would not enjoy the Empire State Building. The Top of the Rock was recommended to me; I've never been. Ideally I would combine a view with food or at least a drink. If we do tea or a drink in the Lobby Bar at the Mandarin Oriental, it might work. Another suggestion I garnered was a place called Robert in the Museum of Art and Design, although I feel unsure of the food there. Thoughts?
11) I'm considering a prix-fixe lunch menu at a place we won't otherwise visit for dinner. (This way I get to try a restaurant where I'd really like to dine, but without tying up an evening my aunt wants to do something else.) I was looking at Aquavit, maybe Seasonal, Jean-Georges, and Bouloud Sud. My aunt would be put off by a dress code and I can't quite decipher the Jean-Georges requirements; would jeans be okay at J-G or maybe Nougatine? Or maybe you have other suggestions? I'm not worried about price unless it's over $100 pp.
I realise that was long and thank anyone who had the patience to wade through it! Your feedback is appreciated.