Will be taking an old (girl)friend out to dinner soon to get re-aquainted. Want great food, great atmosphere, but not too formal or stuffy. Service unobtrusive. And need a quiet atmosphere so that we can talk and not have to shout to hear each other. And don't want to be rushed. I've heard about the Tapanede in La Jolla, and El Bizcocho at the San Bernardo Inn. Any thoughts/recommendations on this. Or suggestions of other places in SD?