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Declining a dinner invite tactfully


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Declining a dinner invite tactfully

PhilipS | Oct 31, 2012 06:22 AM

Bit of background.

We have a friend - let's call him Dave, who celebrates his birthday every year by inviting his friends to join him in a fine dining experience. Well, when I say invite, he pays for his dinner and his "guests" pay for theirs plus a share of the drinks.

My OH and I get an invite most years - but it is normally about two weeks before the event, so I have a strong suspicion that we are after thoughts when others have dropped out.

Every year we have come up with a plausible excuse, but to be truthful for us the rule of diminishing returns applies. We just can't spend what would be the price of a new iPad on one meal/evening out. Plus neither my OH or I are big drinkers, so we tend to end up overpaying our share.

So with the birthday date being the end of November, we are expecting that email in the next few weeks.

Question is - should we just come up with another excuse or be honest and say that we can't justify £400 plus for a evening out. It is not that we can't afford it, we just prefer to spend our money on other things.

If honesty is best - can I have some wording suggestions please.

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