I feel shaken to my core ... perhaps you have some reflections that will help me understand (or maybe you have stories of your own).
Asian buffets - not to everyone's taste, and never on any list of truly great restaurants. Each has its weaknesses, but a few have strengths that allow a very good meal to be carefully chosen.
My family has been to Bamboo Buffet at Bailey's Crossroads and certain individuals have delighted in their sushi, baked salmon, and pho. Asian families seem happy to be there. My wife hates it.
We've been to Springfield's Dragon Sea where the seafood is really memorable, and so are the Peking duck, and the dim sum (esp. the turnip cakes). Asians everywhere. My wife disdains it.
So we go to the (recently mentioned by me with severe caveats) Green Olive on Route 1 ... I had a diverse crowd of mostly kids to feed and we were sick of pizza. I go there willingly because you CAN, if you choose carefully, get a decent meal there and the Korean place across the street isn't always quite what I want - the seafood is generous if not memorable, the sushi is a bit better than average, and the usual dishes are no worse than average, but there are some real disasters (yes, that's A-1 Steak Sauce with the Peking duck) and not an Asian in sight aside from the staff. "Best I've ever been to!" says my wife.
AAAAARGH! Somebody tell me I'm not the only foodie this happens to, please!