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Accommodating a Party Guest-What is Reasonable?

PartyHound | Dec 29, 201412:26 PM     106

Hi, CHers. Posting on a new/throwaway account, for fear that the guest in question may recognize my normal username. (I use it for other sites, too).

I am having a New Years party and one of my guests is, to be blunt, a binge eater. For example, at a previous dinner party, he ate an entire pan of lasagna by himself (plus rolls, dessert, etc), and at a friend's wedding, he ate a full 100+ piece tray of sushi during the cocktail hour, and then a similar amount of food at the buffet. So. He eats far, far more than a typical person, and doesn't necessarily pick up on the social queues that he needs to slow down.

I was planning to serve heavy hors d'oeuvres at the party, but not necessarily a full meal. But I know he is going to eat every scrap of food in the house unless I say something to him. I was planning a pretty "nice" menu, but I simply cannot afford the amount of crab dip that he would likely eat. Is it polite/appropriate to call him up in advance and explain that I am only serving light food, and if he wants a full meal he should eat before the party? Or do I need to switch my menu to bean burritos to accommodate his appetite. The third option-that I serve a variety of "price point" foods I don't really like because I don't want to spent the party playing food police and I know from experience he isn't going to think to himself, "oh, well I see there is only so much smoked salmon here, but she did make 32 baked potatoes so maybe I should load up on those instead."

I don't mind making menu changes/additions to accommodate food allergies or dietary restrictions, but is binge eating in the same category? Just to head off a question I know I am going to get, yes he probably does have an eating disorder, and I am under the impression he is seeing a doctor about some of these issues.

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