So, my DH is an obsessive foodie and picky eaters do drive him crazy. To his credit, he/we are virtually the only ones in a family of substantial size that care to or bother to host holiday gatherings. We have a few people in the extended family with special dietary "requirements."
They range from the cousin who refuses to eat anything with mushrooms to a Muslim in-law who says he follows Halel, but is known to frequent Burger King. Basically, DH has given up arranging his dishes for the benefit of each and every guest and now puts in whatever is called for, but then "forgets" that there are mushrooms or pork when describing the components of the dish. Since we're not dealing with anyone who has an actual food allergy, no one is the wiser.
What's the general consensus on this? Before this tactic was employed, DH would end up preparing 4-5 additional dishes to meet each special requirement. Long story short - rude extended family members and $37.00 of uneaten sea bass make for mad hosts. How far are hosts expected to go these days to accomodate everyone when there are many people coming for a holiday/occasion dinner?