I've read the thoughts... but where does every one seem to get this idea that a professional attitude is the rule in restaurant kitchens?
Back-stabbing, nasty, ugly, churlish, sometimes even homicidal behavior happens behind the doors you never travel through... nor would want to. I say this from personal experience. It's nasty in there. So people are ganging up on someone? So what? That's nothing. I knew a chef who had to leave his previous job and move to another state because of getting pissed off at a waiter and dousing him with hot soup.
Just because you feel things should go a certain way, does not mean they're going to. Expecting some kind of manners in a kitchen is just naive. It's a zoo. A crazy, effing, mess of a sometimes wonderful, sometimes suicide inducing, mostly crazy-making place to be.
These people are kittens compared to some of the people I worked with. Honestly. Spend a week back there. See if you don't feel the same way.