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What if you are the "uninvited guest"?


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What if you are the "uninvited guest"?

bjd001 | | Feb 3, 2012 01:02 PM

Gee, I just saw the post about "Ways to refuse univited guests"... What do you do if you ARE the uninvited guest?

Here's the situation: For the last several years DH and I have attended a Super Bowl party given by people we would describe as pretty good friends, but we're not part of their "inner circle". We are generally invited to things like their annual Christmas party, but not to their smaller dinner parties. We're all fine with that situation. This year, we did not receive an invitation to their Super Bowl party, which is fine. Their guest list is up to them and we figured maybe they were having a smaller group this year.

But earlier in the week we were at my sister's for dinner. She and her DH are much closer to the folk having the Super Bowl party and they are going, as are some other mutual friends. My sister checked the email invite, and we are not on it. Again, fine, we can make other plans for Sunday. Then my sister decides to call the hostess about whether we were intentionally left off the guest list or was it an oversight? It appears they wanted a smaller party, so no oversight. But during the conversation, the hostess says it would be ok for us to come. My sister relays this to me. But, having not heard anything directly from the hostess to me, I am still not comfortable going.

Then yesterday evening (Thursday), I received an email from the hostess saying DH and I are welcome to come to the party Sunday. So now I am torn. Since she reached out to us, should we go? Or send a response saying we appreciate the invite, but cannot attend. Either was feels rather awkward!


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