I'm new to the boards and I am hoping I can get some good advice here. I am wanting to throw a surprise b-day "party" (he's turning 30) at a restaurant in the Santa Clara/San Jose/Palo Alto/Sunnyvale-ish area. I am hoping to get 20-30 people to come. I was originally thinking of doing it at Hotel Valencia in Santana Row, but I worry only because they are a little pricey and some people might not come because of it. Anyone know of good restaurant that would be kind to a group that big in the area?
Also - not food related but about etiquette:
When you invite people for such a gathering, is it assumed that they pay for themselves? I definitely can't afford that myself, but how would I say to people that you pay for your own dinner? I don't want to be tacky....