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Has your spouse/dining companion appropriated your go-to favorites when making menu selections?


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Has your spouse/dining companion appropriated your go-to favorites when making menu selections?

silence9 | Oct 31, 2011 02:04 PM

We have a local (S. California) thai restaurant that does a stellar job preparing pad see ew, and for many years that item was my go-to selection a good 90% of the time when dining there. My wife would order whatever suits her mood at the time, generally pleased. There would be a modest-to-moderate amount of sharing from both our respective entrees, but I am usually much more interested in my own selection than in hers. Which is to say, I tend to clean my plate, whereas the wife often brings her selection left-overs home for lunch the next day. All is well...

Then about a year ago, my wife decided that as her fondness the pad see ew blossomed, her preference for other choices on the menu diminished. To the point, that she wanted to start ordering the pad see ew for herself as her own entree selection (and is more than willing to share it with me). Of course, she still likes to reserve a good half of her entree to bring home as left-overs. Which creates one of a number of conundrums for me: knowing that she now likes to indulge in the pad see ew more (while at the restaurant - it is, after all, her own selection now) and also knowing that she likes her left-overs to come home with her, I am more than a little reticent in helping myself to 'her' pad see ew. So I don't. Or I'll only take a tablespoon full. I'll just focus on my own new entree, which brings me to the second conundrum.

I would find it ridiculous to order pad see ew as my own entree now, since my wife now orders it 90% of the time for herself. Telling the server that we'll have two orders of the same dish and then to proceed to both eat the same item (on a menu with dozens of options) is just not gonna happen. So instead, I've relinquished the pad see ew to the wife, and I order something else that will likely be tasty, but not my first choice by a long chalk. The wife realizes that she has pulled this fairly benign ordering switcheroo, and has verbalized feeling mildly bad about it, But it doesn't deter her from continuing to order it as her entree (instead, she'll earnestly insist that I have more of her entree). But I won't, for the reasons stated above.

So, has this happened to you? Is your go-to fave now in the hands of your frequent dining companion? Do you feel somewhat childishly resentful (as I sometimes do, I admit) for this turn of events, or am I the only greedy monster in monsterland? Let me state that this really ain't that big a deal - I'll survive just fine without my beloved pad see ew distending my tummy. And I love my wife more than any menu item (that I can think of ;-). Just wondered if others have had similar issues arise, seemingly from nowhere. I suppose a related question would be: is there a dish that you would still order a second entree of (under like circumstances), because you love it so much?

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