my wife and I hosted a lunch today with several coworkers (including several from western europe) and families. My wife is asian and made several authenic dishes which usually get a great reception.
We served the meal buffet style in our kitchen. Next to each dish was a small placard with the name of the dish, the description, ingredients and spiciness
For a couple of the most popular dishes (papaya salad, pad khee mao), we made two version of each dish. The native version which tends to be very spicy and a much more milder version.
One of our european guests asked me why we had 2 version of the same dish. I said that I know people have different spice preferences and wanted everyone to be able to find a dish they can enjoy.
He took this as an insult and thought I was making unfair assumptions about him. He didnt try either dish was clearly upset and left early.
My question to the board is did i committ some type of social faux pas that I didn't realize