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cresyd | | Aug 7, 2013 05:40 AM

Today at work a friend of mine asked me if I'd like to join her and her boyfriend for dinner at their apartment tonight. We often do these kinds of impromptu dinners and I typically bring a bottle of wine. Whether it's a host gift or a "my contribution to a shared meal" given the nature of our friendship is pretty either/or.

During the invite today, she mentioned that it would be nice if I brought a bottle of white as it's hot. Given my schedule today, I don't have time to get anything prior to going over to her place and knowing my options of where to buy wine - what this means is that the chances of me getting a chilled bottle of white are really small. I mentioned this, so she said that a light red would also be nice.

Given the heat where we live, I think white wine sounds far nicer than red. I could get a bottle of white, and we could stick it in the freezer for a bit - but I was wondering if there's a good way to call and ask the following, "With the bottle of wine, do you want me to bring it for cost reasons or time to go shopping reasons? Because if you pick up a bottle of white on the way home and then chill it before the meal, I'm more than happy to pay for it. If it's time/shopping reasons - I'm still very happy to pick up a bottle."

Does that request alone sound fine? We are close enough and have done more obvious shared meals (where we divide ingredient lists in half), so talking about who pays for what isn't completely out of the blue for us. But there is something that makes me feel a bit uncomfortable abotu the request.

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