Went to Pizzaiolo last night. Food was good as always, but an odd etiquette question arose. I was with one friend, we had made a reservation and sat at a table for two. There was a two-top next to us, but it was at a respectable distance from us- just far away enough for me to squeeze between the two tables. I was sitting on a bench; my friend in a chair. The hostess sat another party of two men at the table next to us shortly after we sat down. During the course of our meal, three different men came over to talk, at length, to the guys at the table next to us. They stood very close to my friend, and talked loudly (I would characterize it as "bellowing"). My friend and I were having a deep conversation, and it felt very disconcerting. Then, before we'd ordered dessert, some woman came over, plunked herself between me and the guy at the next table on the bench, and proceeded to also have a loud, lengthy conversation with the two men. She sat about six inches away from me, and I felt completely uncomfortable and claustrophobic. I didn't say anything because it felt so awkward. When my friend and I got up to leave (prematurely, because we couldn't hear each other because the people next to us were so loud), I asked the woman to move so I could get out of my seat. She said, "Oh, I thought I might have been talking too loud," and I said, "Well, actually you were" and walked out. Passive aggressive, I know.
So would you have said something to these people earlier, and if so, what? They really shouldn't be crowding three people in a space barely intended for two. I am not great at being assertive, so I was afraid I'd get unreasonably angry with them if I said anything...it just seemed so obviously rude to me.