I'm a young foodie, so I tend not to eat at the big shots often, if ever. For my big 2-1, my fam said let's go out to dinner somewhere really nice, you pick, anywhere, within reason. So no Per Se, Masa or $60 entrées (family of five three-course meal at those prices is just too much).
First idea I had was wd~50 because it's supposedly so innovative, and really unusual. My mother said it friend called it "too weird." But I have an interest in the weird. I'm leaning towards Western food over Eastern food. And it shouldn't be too noisy.
Was also considering eleven madison park, Gotham Bar & Grill, Lever House (partially for the architecture), davidburke&donatella (where my friend is a reservationist), etc...
And oh, anywhere in NYC, Manhattan preferred.