Alright, so after everyone's amazing input, I think I have a tentative schedule for my (mostly) Sonoma Trip:
Monday, July 7:
7am- pick up rental car; on the road by 7:30 out of SFO
8:45/9- Oxbow for lunch/snacks; and bouchon bakery to go (I know it's totally not in Sonoma and who knows, it could be over rated but Bouchon is one of those yummy touristy things I feel compelled to do and I don't know when I'm getting back so I just want to say I ate wonderful sweets and macarons theres lol); also considering just picking up boxed lunches from Yountville Deli (can call ahead of time which will make us just be able to pick it up and go);
10:00- leave for sonoma; enjoy the ride in the convertible (and probably eat our breakfast from the bakery on the way lol)
Then The wineries in this order (I think)
Iron Horse (I was initially considering Gloria Ferrer because it was closer to Yountville where we're starting, but then everything else I want to try is so much further up, so I heard this was a good alternative)
Lunch and walk around Armstrong Redwoods
(not sure if I should do Merry Edwards before DaVero; technically Merry Edwards is closer to Redwoods than DaVero but going to DaVero last brings us up North even further).
I’m also considering going to Armstrong Redwoods AFTER the 3 wineries (because well, wineries close by 5, and the Redwood forest does not lol), but think I think 3 wineries back-to-back might be rough (especially because I don’t think any of them really have food menus that we can eat from to “cushion” our tastings- do any of the places let you eat your own food if you do enough tastings or buy a bottle) or is there a place we could find in between two of the wineries?
Another plus about saving the Armstrong Park for last is that If we do Armstrong last, I figure it would prevent us from getting some of that 5-6pm rush hour traffic going south (because we would be there instead). Then around 6/6:30, we could head back down south towards SFO and do dinner either in Santa Rosa or Petuloma on the way (around 7/7:30ish). Any suggestions on a nice (moderate to moderately expensive) memorable dinner in either of those towns to close out this portion of our honeymoon?