At a pizza restaurant, is it rude to add red pepper flakes to pizza before tasting it? What about parmesean? Is it rude to remove the cap from the pepper flakes and pour it on? If it is rude, who am I offending?
Is it rude to ask for the hottest salsa available at a Mexican restaurant? Many people think that you should not add salt or pepper until after you've tasted the food. If I wait until I've tasted my food to ask for extra hot salsa, does this make my request any less insulting?
I live in the country, outside a small town in Central California. I went to one of the two restaurants in town with my mother-in-law and some other relatives, and I asked for habanero salsa as I placed my order for a burrito. Maybe it was rude to assume that just because they're a Mexican restaurant, they would have habanero salsa. After the waitress returned to the table without any habanero salsa, I asked her to bring me some of the hottest salsa they had. (I asked nicely. Her English wasn't that good, so I had to repeat myself a couple of times.) She brought me mild salsa to which lots of red pepper flakes had recently been added. I return to this restaurant a lot with my in-laws, and somehow they always manage to serve me five minutes after they have served everybody else. Is this just a coincidence, or are they trying to get back at me for having made a request that they see as insulting?