I am one of those annoying always on time people. I feel like I often need to manage my own expectations.
For example if you have dinner reservation for 8:00 and are running about 15 minutes late do you call the restaurant and let them know or do you expect a 10-15 minute grace period and assume they will hold your table? Anything more than 10 minutes I call. My friends think nothing of showing up 20 minutes late with no call and expecting their table to be ready.
What about a sit down dinner party? How much leeway should a host give or when should they expect a phone call letting them know you’ll be late? I have had guest show up 45+ minutes late with nary a call. I don’t mind holding dinner at all, my timing is never that exact that I can’t flex because god know things happens. It’s the not knowing which is frustrating for me and the other quests.
If it’s a casual event- backyard BBQ, cocktail party, etc does the grace period change? Unless I am told “come any time” to an open house type event I will always call and let the host know if I am running late. However for more casual event that goes from my regular 10-15 call to 20 minute call.
Lastly- do you find it annoying when guests do call to let you know? Do you expect your guest to be 20-30 minutes late as the norm even for a sit down dinner party and don’t “worry” (for lack of a better word) until 45 min/hour that they aren’t going to show?