New to the area and desperate. Is there anything sublime in the El Cajon/Santee/Spring Valley/Rancho San Diego/Jamul/La Mesa/Bonita neighborhoods? Great mom'n'pop shops ideal. Ethnic = happiness. Mainly interested in weeknight eateries that can substitute for home cooking. Please help save us from Chili's/Olive Garden/Fuddruckers/Claim Jumper/Trophy's and other criminals in the chain-gang.