Thanks for the help on Spuntini. One disaster avoided.
Now we're looking at the following:
Il Mulino, Il Posto, Oro, and Tutti Matti
She would like a nice atmosphere (bonus points for candlelight), outstanding Italian food, and of course it goes without saying that good service really counts on special occasion nights. Money is no object. (Not that I'm being a show-off, but hey we've been friends since public school. Gotta shoot for the best.) Any opinions out there?