I have a birthday coming up and what I really want to do is cook a 3 course meal. Antipasti, Lasagna (from scratch with fresh pasta) with veggies and salad and a desert plus wine. For 10 + this meal could run to around over $400. That's more than I can afford/want to spend. Is it bad form to ask the invitees to chip in, about $30 per person? Have you ever cooked a meal for your friends and asked them to pay you?