so in my house i do 95% of the cooking. there are myriad reasons for this, but i do enjoy doing it, and ms. pigtails is fairly intimidated by my abilities. also, because of the way our finances are arranged i do all of the grocery shopping, so i plan ahead. it's my opinion that i'm perceived as being a good cook primarily because i'm a good planner. i don't like to make "instant food," so i have to plan meals ahead of time. i also pack lunch, make granola, etc., myself. this is a process that i truly do enjoy, most of the time.
however, this annoying thing happens. ms. pigtails has a sort of stressful job where the day can be somewhat unpredictable, and she doesn't get home until it's time for dinner, so i can't wait until she gets home to think about dinner. also, ms. pigtails is miserable and cranky when she gets too hungry. sometimes she ends up eating lunch so late in the day that she is not hungry. other times, she ends up starving the second she walks in the door. also, if i don't make dinner, there are not really any healthy other options available to us. furthermore, i have a pet peeve where i hate for food i've cooked to get cold before it is eaten. so the idea of simply reheating things in the microwave is not really satisfying to me on a daily basis.
of course, like most chowhounds who like to cook, i also like to cook food that other people will enjoy. but somehow my plans keep being confounded when it comes to dinnertime at our house. i would love to hear how other people have negotiated this sort of thing with their significant others, and what arrangements they have agreed upon.