My daughter just got engaged and though we are not frum, we will have a glatt kosher affair due to several frum family members. Therefore, the whole affair will be glatt.
First problem. The couple live in Manhattan, his parents live upstate, we live in Queens. We would like to make a nice engagement party for both sides to meet (family and friends), just desserts, liquor and beverages. Have no clue where to look for a decent not overpriced place where I can either cater in the cake and fruit (need suggestions on that too...want great desserts)or someplace that already has it all. However, many in the family are phenomenal bakers and have always baked for engagements. We figured three hours is more than enough with people coming and going for a l'chaim.
Second, the couple would like to consider a Sunday dairy brunch wedding (with cholov yisroel as well) for 200 to 250 people. They very much would like to have a summer wedding where the chupah could be outside in a beautiful scenery or gardens than a brunch. We are people who like to do things differently, love great food and enjoy doing things uniquely different with class. There are going to be obvious problems with some of the frum family (williamsburg crowd, crown heights and lakewood) but we'll deal with it.
Third question, not food related. What are the rules of who pays for the engagement party these days and who pays for what concerning the wedding?
Thanks in advance and hope someone could come up with some great ideas that wont break the bank.