I see great information on this list so I'm hoping to get some help here.
We're planning to get married by a jp in CT and then have about 20 friends join us for a nice lunch or dinner somewhere. We are wide open as to where in CT as we have friends coming from Boston and from MD and we live in PA - maybe more partial to the coast - but we don't want anything too casual or over the top formal. I won't be decked out in a wedding dress! We'd love someplace that would be able to give us choices (order ahead or limited selection) , nice atmosphere and ideally a private dining area where we could hang out for several hours and ideally offer an open bar for a couple of hours.
I know this isn't much to go on but does anyone have any suggestions right off the bat? I can come up with more specifics as I think it through.