Okay, the menu in the title is hypothetical- the real menu is chicken pot pie and margaritas! I really would not consider myself a control freak, I'm actually pretty easy going, believe it or not! But… we entertain so rarely and when we do, I like to plan a well-thought out and cohesive menu. However, some people in my life always insist on bringing something. So, I assign them drinks, thinking I can deal with whatever they dream up, telling them that the meal is chicken pot pie. And what do they come up with… possibly the worst combination there could be! Chicken pot pie and margaritas… it just sounds wrong! (Not to mention, there's the added irritation of a dirty blender afterwards and a noisy blender going while people are arriving in our tiny one bedroom apartment! Plus, the other irritation of me trying to do last minute things in our one-butt kitchen while someone else is trying to make margaritas!) How do you deal with this situation? Have you learned to live with giving up control? Really, I just want everyone to come and enjoy themselves and not worry about bringing something, but this person will not take no for an answer! Do you have a pleasant tactic that works? Do you recommend really specific things for them to bring? Ugh… I wish this weren't eating at me!