There's your problem right there. Chili is a highly regional food that tends to generate highly chauvinistic reactions from its afficionados. We've already seen the typical attitude of the Texas chili fan, who invariably starts drawling domething like "anybody who knows beans about chili knows that there are no beans in real chili." Their chili is a spicy stew consisting mostly of meat (often wild game, or even roadkill, I hear) and chile peppers.
To this unrepentent yankee, chili is a tomatoey concoction consisting mostly of ground beef and kidney beans, with a little mild chili powder in it. I personally like it over rice.
Go to Cincinnati, and you find something called Chili 5 Ways, which is basically a meaty tomato sauce, served over spaghetti, with beans, onions, and cheese heaped on top.