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AVOID - John Andrews, Egremont, MA Berkshires- AVOID - Surly Service

by jcjc555 3 months ago

I finally got around to writing a note to Dan Young, Owner of John Andrews Restaurant. Unfortunately I did not hear b...

Restaurant owners backtracking

by Gastronomos 7 months ago

This is one side of a story found on the interwebz: "I would like to address the post about Jamis Kitchen and the ...

eclecticsynergy commented 5 months ago

Servers who ask if you need change...

by kali43 10 years ago

Had an experience at a rare lunch out with my husband today and would love to hear others' opinions about this. Went ...

Motosport commented 1 year ago

Give my dad his beer! Your just standing there!

by galaxycat 2 years ago

My dad and I went out to dinner last night at a local place. My dad ordered a beer. Five minutes later the waitress c...


Bookwich commented 2 years ago

Bar "buy backs" [moved from Boston board]

by postemotional1 7 years ago

[NOTE: We've moved this digression from the thread at


sherronplourde commented 2 years ago

Get your nasty thumb off my plate! And... smokers, wash your damn hands!

by Markfenn 2 years ago

Having moved to O'ahu from the Midwest where the "finger/thumb on my plate" occurred at almost every sit-down restaur...

hotoynoodle commented 2 years ago

111 Forks PBG Valentine's Day mishap

by freakerdude 2 years ago

I'm wondering what most people think about this. I'm not one to ever ask for a comp, but after I left and thought abo...

Frodnesor commented 2 years ago

How do you nicely tell a server that they have severely bad breath?

by gryphonskeeper 5 years ago

I went for lunch today, and when my server asked me if I was ready to order I nearly gagged at the way her breath sme...

Motosport commented 2 years ago

Restaurant/waitress adds to credit card bill. what to do?

by rtv 3 years ago

We went out for dinner at a restaurant that we have been going to for many many years. this particular time we had a...


josephnl commented 2 years ago

Short Pulls--What Do You Do?

by kaleokahu 2 years ago

So, here's photo of a draft "pint" pulled for me yesterday. I paid $5.40. My wife, who ordered a 12-oz bottle, pour...

hotoynoodle commented 2 years ago

Get your own silverware?

by Hobbert 2 years ago

So, my dad was in town last night and stopped by around dinner time so we (dad and my husband and I) decided to head ...


cleobeach commented 2 years ago

Calling a (not young) woman "Young Lady"

by DGresh 2 years ago

Went to a trendy neighborhood restaurant in Cambridge Mass last night with DH and twenty-something DD. I am in my mid...

The Chowhound Team commented 2 years ago

Professional waiter/waitress- a dying breed?

by TheTrout 10 years ago

My wife and I had a great anniversary dinner last Friday evening at Sage. The food, as expected, was excellent. We ch...


PersonalDeliConsultant commented 2 years ago

Waiter Sitting at Your Table

by K. McB. 16 years ago

Happened again last night: When she came by to do her waiterly duties, she sat at a spare chair at our table with us....


Bookwich commented 2 years ago

When the waiter wants to clear the dishes before everyone is done

by Eujeanie 9 years ago

This is my pet peeve in a restaurant. I eat slower than my husband. Is it up to HIM to say "I'll keep my dirty ...


stanbee commented 3 years ago

5 Times to Say "No Thank You" and 3 Things to Do When You Hear It — How to Be a Grownup

by girloftheworld 3 years ago

This has always been one of my peeves. I thought it was because I was young...I guess it is not. "No, Thank you." se...

Midlife commented 3 years ago

Waiter asking you to cash out

by The_Bayou 11 years ago

It seems that whenever I am at a restaurant or bar after work, within a short period of time the waiter asks that I c...


silenceiswar commented 3 years ago

Billing issue... what would you do?

by rmanrman 3 years ago

I dined at a restaurant last Wednesday with a few friends and ordered a couple of entrees and a bottle of wine (which...


NanceeSwartz1 commented 3 years ago

Waitress at Elmwood Cafe Berkeley makes racist assumption

by karenfinan 3 years ago

Very unfortunate incident at Elmwood Cafe in Berkeley. Wonder if this waitress will keep her job. http://jezeb...

marssy commented 3 years ago

Dining Alone - Experiences, treatment by restaurant staff

by huiray 7 years ago

What are your experiences when dining alone, particularly in fine dining places or at least 'nice' places? How does ...


josephnl commented 3 years ago

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