If I take a lady to dinner, the sky's the limit, and the waiter won't have to urge her to order that pricey lobster. I'll be the one doing the urging. But there are times (several times a week) when I feel obligated to take a large group to dinner and I'm hoping to escape with some change left in my pocket. It seems that nowadays some waiters are pressured to urge people to spend more than they intended to, and quite often one of those servers is turned loose on my guests.
"Would you like an expensive side order with that?"
"Our chef's signature dish is the expensive caviar with white truffles."
"Tonight we have expensive lobster flown in from Maine. The chef let me taste it and I cried with joy, it was so good."
If I say or do anything other than grin as if this is the most wonderful suggestion I've ever heard, that's the memory my guests will take away from the evening. What can I do?