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The perpetual guest -- are you one? Why?

linguafood | Oct 17, 2011 09:21 AM

I've mentioned on other occasions that we host get-togethers rather frequently -- whether it's a poker game, weekday after-dinner drinks, larger potlucks or dinner parties, massive Halloween or NYE parties -- you name it, we've probably done it.

Our circle of friends is pretty expansive & very low-key, i.e. doesn't stand on ceremony, and overall is less sensitive to etiquette issues than likely 90% of hounds here.

The interesting thing is that -- besides one or two other couples -- nobody else is doing much of any hosting. By nobody I mean the majority of friends who are invited to many a gathering in any given month, but who *never* reciprocate. Mind you, they are wonderful guests -- never show up empty-handed, great company, etc. etc. (otherwise, they probably wouldn't be invited as much). I've just never seen their house from the inside...

I understand that many folks have hang-ups about hosting -- after just having had a rather harmless (IMO) thread locked within 24 hours about hosting responsibilities, I'd certainly understand if even the most optimistic, bright-eyed and enthusiastic folks would rather not risk making any number of unforgivable (according to some) mistakes rendering them unworthy human beings.

Granted, hosting is ALWAYS work: you have to clean before and after, often you have to plan a meal (which means shopping and preparing), and any number of other things some people apparently just aren't comfortable with.

Aside from the effort, tho -- if you

a) don't have children
b) have the financial means to host
c) don't live in a car
d) are consistently invited to events

…. what's holding you back?

Please try and keep the discussion civilized.

I know, I know -- a lot of you have pretty strong opinions……but I'd hate to get this thread deleted just b/c some of you can't control yourselves.

TIA, as always.

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