Thanks to whoever recommended the Petit Logis in Yountville, it met our requirements perfectly for lodging in Napa. My only criticism is it's not really a B & B, but a remote controlled motel - we never met the owners in 4 days.
I recommend the following wineries:
Pride (appt. required) - free samples of some of the best wine in the valley (Parker wine that doesn't fall apart) and a horse wagon ride accompanied by a tour of an incredible property and a very interesting lesson on mountain terroir. They spend most of their money on making wine rather than building monuments.
Darioush (spelling?) - great wine, especially the Syrah, amid an over the top display of wealth, but the wine lives up to the winery
Regusci - great wine, esp. Cab Sauv, and better olive oil
Miner - excellent wine - Chardonnay, Viognier, Cabernet Sauvignon, Syrah both Miner and Darioush merit the high tasting fees for their full range.
Gundlach-Bunschu - reasonably priced and excellent wine on their beautiful "wine farm" (bring a picnic)
Siduri (appointment) - an American garagiste making insane Pinot Noir and Syrah in a Santa Rosa industrial park, To see a complete contrast in making incredible wine go from Pride (all estate) to Siduri (all contracted juice) on the same day. Their point of intersection is Syrah. Unfortunately, I wasn't able to buy Pride's which is very very limited as is their Cab Franc.
2 wineries that disappointed me:
Flora Springs - average wines that don't justify the $12 tasting fee and malcontent employees (I used to be a big fan of their juice)
Clos Pegase - incredible winery, but unlike Darioush, the wines don't match the setting
As far as restaurants:
Bouchon (roast chicken,gnocchi, great satellite (Cote de Castillon) red Bordeaux) and Bistro Jeanty (vegetarian appetizers/salads, Alsace wine) deserve the raves on this board. It will be a long time before I eat at Les Halles again in NYC (where I live). The Bouchon bakery is as good as any I've ever purchased from, maybe better. CIA/WS restaurant at Greystone - excellent oysters, duck, pork, and halibut. Chandon: the lobster in particular was memorable, sparklers good, flight of house Pinot Noir, excellent. I ate there comped so I won't complain about service that was unacceptable from a 4* restaurant.