I'm seeking recommendations for the most interesting mild dishes in places which generally serve hotly-spiced cuisines, like Ruen Pair or other Thai town restaurants, or Oaxacan or Indian restaurants. Because of health problems and my personal taste, I have an extremely low tolerance for hotly-spiced foods - I enjoy intensely-spiced dishes, and am very adventurous in my tastes, but I just can't deal with the heat. But I do want to accompany my friends who like hot dishes to their favorite places.
Just to give you an idea of what's too hot for me:
1) Any of Jitlada's southern Thai specialities, even if I ask for them spiced as mildly as possible;
2) Mariscos Chente's shrimp aquachiles;
3) The masala dosa potato filling of Mayura's masala dosa;
4) The tamarind mole that comes with the duck at Moles La Tia.
I'd also appreciate recommendations on places that can accommodate making a dish mild, where it's not an imposition on the restaurant. For example, I enjoy the fact that most soon tofu places will let you order their dishes without any red pepper; and I appreciate the Korean places that serve the chili paste for the bibim bap on the side, or are generous about giving you refills on their milder panchan.
I realize that for some restaurants I may be sacrificing authenticity, or not getting the best they have to offer, by sticking to mild dishes, but I'm willing to settle if the food is otherwise fairly good.