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Hosts cleaning up/doing dishes while guests still around?

rita_howenho | Mar 16, 2007 02:11 PM


I was wondering if more people feel the same as I do about this situation:
We are a group of about 3-5 families who meet for dinner about once in 1-2 months, with 1 family hosting it. It is pretty informal, we've known each other for years, our kids are in the 3-14 year range. Just meet, talk, socialize, maybe a movie in the background, and kids playing by themselves, mostly. These last from around 7:30 - 11:00 pm or so.
There are 1 or 2 houses, where the hostess, after dinner & drinks & dessert, get their kitchen in spic& span shape, all dishes in the dishwasher, sink clean & scrubbed. all food in the refrigerator, garbage bag changed, glasses/cans picked up from everywhere etc.

During all this cleanup, in which the hostess sometimes has her hubby help her too,
we are relaxing/talking to the other guests. I feel I would rather they do the basic cleanup, like putting away some food, clearing the table, and soaking the dishes etc, say a quick 15-20 min effort and then socialize/ be with the guests. When the hosts are finally ready to sit down with us, it is really late,and kids really need to get home which is 30 min away.

I leave the major cleaning till the guests leave. They make sure the house is such that they can lock the door behind the guests and go straight to bed. I say, if that is how they do it, fine, but I will leave when we need to but that upsets the hosts.
Is it the norm that detailed cleanup gets done when guests are still around ?


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