I need some help to avoid ruffling feathers too much but to stop wine mooching. I have been going on girls weekends bi-annually with a group of friends for the last 10 years. The only real drama we have had at these weekends has been over wine etiquette. When you have 10 ladies in one house, and everyone brought wine, we tend to share the wine rather than have everyone only open and drink what they brought - that would mean 10 bottles open at a time. However, some ladies always bring cheaper wine BUT drink the nicer wine and never even open their wine during the weekend. If somebody chooses to bring and drink cheaper wine, that is certainly their choice and I have no problem with it. I just feel too old to drink cheap wine. This has been discussed politely, but the mooching continues sometimes with the moocher saying they didn't know they drank an expensive wine, sorry ... Argh. Any ideas on how to handle this without causing a friendship crisis? By the way, the few moochers are not my close friends, but with group dynamics, they can't just be kicked out of the group and they do have other good qualities. A few of us had just been expecting it and accepting it, but this past weekend almost a third of my $50 bottle of Stag's Leap Artemis got poured into one moocher's water glass and chugged... This was discussed with her, but I somehow believe it will happen again anyway. Does anyone have a system to handle this without too many hurt feelings? I was thinking about somehow putting colored ribbons on the wine bottles - green ribbons for everyone to share, red ribbons for only those who CHOSE to bring more expensive wines to share?