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Is Your Dieting Friend Going Too Far?


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Is Your Dieting Friend Going Too Far?

NicoleFriedman | May 28, 2009 01:55 PM

Having once been a dieter and uber picky (years ago thankfully!) I can sympathize with anyone trying to eat healthier or stick to a diet. However, it becomes harder for me to me to be empathetic when:

1. The dieter is constantly quoting calories/nutrtitional info about the whole menu or what I am eating. (I usually eat things that are relatively healthy but this irritates me because I believe in moderation and do not want to fall back into the trap of counting calories...for myself at least I find that it can become an unhealthy habit)

2. The dieter is very vocal about not eating from the bread basket. Very understandable when you are trying to lose weight, but does this statement need to be repeated numerous times? (Or while I am chewing my bread?) My mom in particular drives me crazy with this- she bores holes into me and my dad when we're eating bread- quite passive aggressive! To be fair I can understand why it would be hard to have bread on the table when you're avoiding it-which is why I discreetly eat it and have the waiter take the rest.

3. "I'm not getting dessert" leads to the dieter trying to take more than one bite of mine...many bites in fact. 'Why not get your own?" "You know I'm on a diet- I just took a taste!"

4. The after meal run-down of what the dieter ate: "Aren't you proud of me? I only had 1/2 of the soup, no rolls, only ate 3/4 of the steak, no dessert...." And then proceeds to count the # of calories that she ate (usually a gross understatement) I'm always up for giving support bu

Again, I mean no ill will to anyone who is trying to make themselves healthier or lose a few pounds. However, I do not understand why discretion seems to go out the window a lot of the time in social situations when someone is on a diet. If you want friendly advice or even just a word of support I'm always happy to provide it- especially to a friend. But I think for some reason people on a diet often go way overboard in social situations.

How do you feel about this? What have you done in similar situations?

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