We used Chowhound to plan our visit to the Cape May area. One great success, one so-so result:
The GREAT place is Karen and Rei's, on RT 9 about 20 miles north of Cape May. (Use Google to find their website.) This charming place is impossible to get into without a reservation weeks in advance. We showed up at 7:30 with no reservation, and Rei took pity on us and seated us at 9:00. It was worth the wait! Great warm duck and goat cheese salad. Incredible Carrot and Crab soup (cold soup with wonderful bold spices and pepper sorbet!). Don't eat here if you are not used to sophisticated flavors and ingredients...let a more foodie type occupy your seat.
Oh..main courses...the most tender, undercooked pork tenderloin, with a sauce that included fresh ginger, plums, hot peppers, tomato, god knows what else.
One losing dish--the ostrich--was not tender as advertised. In fact, I sent it back to get the pork tenderloin instead. The dessert mindblower was chocolate banana fudge cheesecake. Yes, all those ingredients, and they went wonderfully well together.
Bring cash...no checks or credit cards accepted. With tax and tip, no drinks, our dinner for two ran $100. Cheap for the quality!
The so-so place was the Lobster House in Cape May itself. A mob scene is the only way to describe the outdoor take-out eating on the dock. The wait for indoor seating was just too long, and who wanted to eat indoors on a balmy summer night? Anyway, the broiled lobster and shrimp etc were on the bland side. Portions rather small (but lots of french fries). The crab chowder was okay, as was the shrimp cocktail. The food is fresh, but unexciting.
One other place we tried--Nicole's Fine Dining in Avalon--was overpriced and uninspiring. Skip it.