For all those people with great suggestions on planning the bachelorette party, I wanted to follow up. We ended up doing a package with SF Asia. Dinner, a show, a special drag show for the bachelorette, rented a limo and went to a couple of clubs. Asia SF was cute. Food was good. They accomodate my mostly vegetarian needs. The staff were really nice. The show was cute. I had gone to Lucky Chang's in ny awhile back and they were sort of similar. I think my friend loved it. Fun, silly, tasteful. Good times.
Thanks so much for all of your suggestions.