My wife and I are having our 6th anniversary on Tuesday. We're relatively new in San Diego, and haven't found the truly great San Diego restaurants yet. We've found a few quite good ones, but haven't found the blow-the-doors-off 5-course-craziness restaurants that we knew in Baltimore and D.C. I've done some searching here, but I worry that most of the posts I've read have emphasized romantic atmosphere over top-quality, world-class dinner (i.e., places like George's on the Cove, which have a brilliant atmosphere, and barely edible food).
We haven't had much of an opportunity to go to top-shelf restaurants here given that we have a 3-year old, so we've mostly focused on ethnic, family-friendly places. But on Tuesday, we've got a babysitter, and we'd like to have a several-hour, wine-matched-with-courses meal. As those with children will understand, we'd really like to not fail at this, as we don't get a babysitter often.
What are your top picks if you want to have a truly fantastic dinner, with matching wine, and food is the priority over atmosphere?