I recently just purchased a dining room table that seats more than 4, so for the first time ever I have the option of family-style serving rather than making plates for my family. I also have small kids (3 & 1), but the 3-yr old serves himself family style at school so I know he's capable. Here's my dilemma: I love the idea of family style and everything I read says it's better for kids to serve themselves (learning good eating habits) rather than be forced to eat what's given, but I hate the idea of washing serving bowls on top of the pots & pans and plates! My husband and I both work full time, so most nights I'm home with the kids at 6:00 trying to get cooking and eating done by 7:00 for bedtime at 8:00. Extra cleanup does not appeal. Are any of you making these trade-offs, or have pros/cons I didn't consider?