My MIL is having a dinner party on Saturday and I asked what I could bring. She said nothing and said bring the wine that you like, if you want to, which was fine.
I have another issue though. I have nut allergies and I'm a picky eater so even though she said not to bring anything for HER group, I'll probably make my own chopped salad and take it. I know some people who think that's a rude thing to do, and most people I know think it's fine. I personally think it's fine and I never mind when someone does it at my house. I'm curious what you CHers think!