My friend had a baby last week. Her friend and manager has set up and is managing a schedule for who's-going-to-send-them-what-dinner-on-what-night and has sent updates pointing out open slots in the schedule.
I've been trying to figure out why it bugs me a little bit, and I think my issue is that the only time I'd ever even HEARD of this custom after a baby is born was when a friend at work was diagnosed with leukemia when she was pregnant with her second child and pretty much had to go in for the bone marrow transplant prep right after the baby was born, leaving her husband with an infant, a toddler, a full-time job, and his wife in the hospital with leukemia. Her coworkers organized a similar dinner-chain for the family, and I thought that was a pretty fabulous thing to do for them.
Fortunately for my friend the brand-new mom, her family is in no such dire straits Everybody's healthy and happy and they're financially comfortable. Has anybody heard of this custom before? One of the last things she said to me was "Bring me food!" which I thought was funny but I did feel a little bit of the "why?" in the back of my mind, knowing it was expected of me somehow.
I could go for some input from fellow Chowhounds about this, mostly whether this is a big worldwide custom that has somehow escaped me completely, or whether somebody's being overly entitled.
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