I am in need of your advice. Passover may seem like a long way away to you, but it seems just around the corner to me!
My partner and I do not keep a kosher house. We have never cooked pork in our home, nor do we prepare meals that mix dairy-and-meat, but we have eaten non-kosher food in our home and we only have 1 set of pots, pans, plates, etc.
That said, she was raised in an observant Kosher home, where her family has three sets of dishes and utensils (D, M, Passover) etc. etc. Last year, due to the way the schedule fell, we did the first seder at our house for our friends and then she went home (her family lives 3-4 hours away; I couldn't go because of a work conflict). It was important to her that our seder was as kosher-for-Passover as possible, so, with the exception of the unkashered plates/utensils/pots/pans/ovens, everything else about the seder was kosher-for-Passover (down to the margarine).
This year her family, including her siblings, her Bubbie, and possibly aunt and uncle, are going to travel to OUR house for the first seder. I am excited that they're coming to our house, but I am pretty stressed about the follow-through! This will be the first major holiday that will be spent at our house, as opposed to their's.
We've been trying to figure out how we can prepare the meal so that her family will consume it (her siblings no longer keep kosher, but her other family members do; in fact, her siblings willingly eat treif, so we're not worried about them); the only way we can come up with is to kasher our kitchen.
We are thinking we will buy a new set of dishes and utensils for the meal (I'm not a fan of having using paper for a Seder). However it is too expensive, and not practical, for us to buy a whole new set of cooking ware (pots, pans, etc). I know our oven can be kashered ourselves - but how might you suggest we handle the rest of it? We were thinking we'd kasher our pots and pans as close to the first Seder as possible and then keep them K-for-P "Meat" until we're done with the holiday (I can't think of a dairy meal I'd need to make that is k-for-p during the time period).
I know to kasher our pots and pans we need to submerge them in the mikvah (am I totally off base here? Sorry - I didn't grow up in a kosher house!). There are several Ortho Mikvahs in our community - but to be honest I don't know how they'd feel about a non-practicing gay woman to show up to kasher her pots? There is a new-agey-reform-type mikveh in a nearby community but I don't think they'd let us kasher anything there either (it's almost like a spa).
Are there rabbis you can pay to help you kasher your house? I know that we need to do this well in advance of the kashering-for-Passover time period because I am sure it's a busy time for rabbis in this line of work! We do not belong to a synagogue; last year for HH we went to 'free' services or she went home (my family lives on the other side of the country).
(we also need to hurry up and put up the mezuzahs before her family visits us, but I am assuming that we can do that ourselves :))