OK I will jump right into the situation. My daughter and her college age boyfriend eat dinner with us often. Now, I am a foodie no doubt about it. I take pride in what I put on the table. The boyfriend puts Sriracha hot chili sauce on everything. I'm talking garlic smashed potatoes (til they are red), parsley pilaf and seafood risotto. Last night I served a dish seasoned mildly with saffron and other herbs. He immediately went to get the hot sauce. I followed him into the kitchen and told him "not every dish is meant to be hot". I said some cooks (myself included) would be offended if he used it on virtually every entree and consider it rude.
He got mad and sulked thru dinner. Later my wife said I was wrong to take offense and I should count hot sauce as a condiment, for him it's like salt and pepper.
Was I right to tell him it was rude? Was it rude? Is hot sauce a condiment to be used on dishes that were never intended to be hot?