OK I will jump right into the situation. My daughter and her colllege age boyfriend eat dinner with us often. Now, I am a foodie no dought about it. I take pride in what I put on the table. The boyfriend puts Sriracha hot chili sauce on everything. I'm talking garlic smashed potatos(til they are red), parsley pilaf and seafood risotto. Last night I served a dish seasoned mildly with saffron and other herbs. He immediately went to get the hot sauce. I followed him into the kitchen and told him "not every dish is meant to be hot". I said some cooks (myself included) would be offended.if he used it on virtually every entree and consider it rude.
He got mad and sulked thru dinner. Later my wife said I was wrong to take offense and I should count hot sauce as a condiment. for him it's like salt and pepper.
Was I right to tell him it was rude? Was it rude? Is hot sauce a condiment to be used on dishes that were never intended to be hot?